Archive for December, 2015

December 30, 2015

Is 16 too many resolutions? May increase chance of attaining one or more…

Sometimes I use some kind of a structure to make my New Year’s resolutions. Long ago I used the 8 polarities on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator which, among other things, had me pursuing matching towels (check!) and spiritual development (well…)

16Strivingsbook 16desiresbookThis year I’ve decided on the 16 Desires outlined in Steven Reiss’ book: Who Am I?

Since the idea is that we all have all 16 but some are more emphasized than others, it seems good to honour the ones that come naturally to me, like curiosity and social contact, while tending a bit more to the ones I need a reminder about, like tranquility and order.

It will be an interesting model to examine in any event. The friend who introduced me to this work just recently saw that he has a new book out called  16 Strivings for God. Here Reiss develops the theory that people embrace religion because it provides them with opportunities to satisfy all 16 basic desires both in strong form and in weak form.


December 28, 2015

Freecell is *not* one of the F’s in the 5-F goal-setting plan.

I make new year’s resolutions. It helps me to review where I’m spending my time and energy and adjust things. I’ve never resolved to lose 10 pounds or work out in a gym. Although maybe I should!

I’ve had a goal buddy for almost a full year — a result of thinking about how to achieve the resolutions I made last year. We talk every Monday morning for 2-10 minutes, review what we said we’d do and set new weekly goals.  It’s a good thing. So one of my goals for the coming week is to make a year’s worth of goals/resolutions. My goal buddy has a system with various categories of resolutions and goals, and I thought I should do the same. So here are some of the things I’ve found on the web, in case you might be interested too.

I like this 5-F one, partly because it’s reminscent of a time I had a group of Friends who met for Food, Friendship and Fun.  (Hi, there, Jackie, Jack, Lynn, Sheila…)

I think it’s good to have a mnemonic to keep on track.

I have to remind myself that my bad habit of having a few games of Freecell whenever the computer is open is not a sixth F!

But if you need 10 categories, here’s another approach:

This came with no explanation other than “explore the honesty circle”, so I guess it’s an evaluative method, but seemed it was a nice mandala approach to goals.

After a search and two games of Freecell, I’ve decided to make my own categories that will include:

Food – growing, cooking, sharing

MY environment – gardening, my apartment, the co-op

THE environment – what can one person do?

FAMILY – esp kids, grandkids and siblings and also niblings

visual art – making, showing, selling, lending – getting it in circulation

DANCE – more dancing at the Unitarian church with more Unitarians dancing

Art workshops – more playdates with Mary – come join me

Health and fitness – more walking, stretching, massage

FRIENDS – I am blessed and pledge to nurture my friendships.



December 8, 2015

What to call “those people”? Thank you, CBC. Da’esh it is. Now for an adjective!

I was listening to CBC The Current yesterday about the connotations for the choices on what to call “those people” and will henceforth use the acronyn Da’esh instead of ISIS (An Egyptian goddess, and a cool one at that) or ISIL (Rhymes with Lysol and makes me think of a household cleaning product).

Here’s the podcast.

Now I’m looking for direction on adjectives. I notice using “extremist”, “radical” and “fundamentalist” are used in front of “Muslim” or “Islamic”.

Here are some selected definitions of these words. I think we need something different. Suggestions?

extreme: utmost or exceedingly great in degree: e.g. extreme joy. 

radical: forming a basis or foundation.

fundamental: being an original or primary source: e.g. a fundamental idea.

Admittedly other definitions give more of a whiff of the connotation that this might not be such a good thing, after all, but I’m looking for an adjective that makes it clear that most Muslims do not subscribe to the interpretations and conclusions of Da’esh.

How about “wrong” or “bad” for starters?

Notes: here are some helpful links I found that supported the idea of using the word Da’esh:–bkC822p_zl

(from 5 months ago – some excerpts below).

Daesh, an adapted acronym of their Arabic name – Dawlat al-Islamiyah f’al-Iraq w Belaad al-Sham – is similar to another Arabic word – das – which means ‘to trample down’ or ‘crush’, which could therefore be the source of their dislike.

Lord hall dismissed a letter signed by 120 MPs demanding that the BBC stop using the term on the grounds it gives undue credibility to the Islamic extremists, saying the BBC would “redouble our efforts” to use caveats such as “so called Islamic State group”.

And recently on BBC


In the Arabic-speaking world, where the use of acronyms is otherwise uncommon, Daesh is used widely but with pejorative overtones.

The label has gained currency despite or perhaps as a direct consequence of the irritation it causes the group, and is now used widely across the world by politicians and in the media.

“Frankly, this evil death cult is neither a true representation of Islam, nor is it a state,” UK Prime Minister David Cameron told Parliament in December 2015 when announcing that his government would be joining France in calling the group “Daesh” rather than “Isil”.

Daesh also sounds similar to an Arabic verb that means to tread underfoot, trample down, or crush something.





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